Subconscious success: how to create a bad first impression without even knowing it

Subconscious success: how to create a bad first impression without even knowing it

Subconscious success: how to create a bad first impression without even knowing it 
Summer 2011, Asia Volume 3, Number 1

Subconscious success: How to create a bad first impression without even knowing it

Interviews and first-time social interactions with strangers, some of whom can be your colleagues, are apt situations where you don’t want to start rubbing people off the wrong way. Between mentally preparing for a big interview and being tossed into a workplace full of strangers, there is little space to fret over the presentation of yourself. Try slowly threading in certain habits into your every day routine and you may find that you can create a good lasting impression on someone with minimal effort, and thought, on your part.

PHYSICAL APPEARANCE

MATTERS

Before you can impress anybody with your winning personality, the first clue a person gets about you is your grooming. A good haircut and a clean shave would serve you well for most occasions. Make it a habit to keep good posture; a more self-confident and reliable image is projected. Inculcate good personal hygiene. This doesn’t mean to bulk up on your preferred scents as that would irritate and drive people away, especially those with sensitive noses. Rid yourself of ill-fitting and garish items in your cupboard as a rule, and use common sense to dress appropriately for the occasion.

BODY

LANGUAGE

A comfortable distance of 4 to 12 feet between you and another in formal situations is recommended, while that between yourself and acquaintances would be 1.5 to 4 feet. Do not follow the person if they move away from you; you may have been too close to them so let them set a comfortable distance instead. You probably have heard that making eye contact creates a good impression, but if you find this intimidating, do the Triangle Trick: alternate your gaze from the other person’s eyes to his forehead then to the bridge of his nose, creating the illusion of eye contact.

CONVERSATION

By all means, laugh, smile and joke but don’t overdo it. Too much and you’ll seem pretentious and overbearing. Steer the conversation away from yourself and consider your choice of words. They give away your intelligence and socio-economic background, among other things. Avoid cursing and using big words that you don’t understand yourself. Make it a habit not to criticise, condemn or complain about others. It would be beneficial not just during an initial meeting, but for future interactions as well. Nobody likes to hear their opinions being put down.

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Quick Tip1

Try slowly threading in certain habits into your every day routine and you may find that you can create a good lasting impression on someone with minimal effort, and thought, on your part.

Quick Tip2

Rid yourself of ill-fitting and garish items in your cupboard as a rule, and use common sense to dress appropriately for the occasion.

Quick Tip3

Triangle Trick: alternate your gaze from the other person’s eyes to his forehead then to the bridge of his nose, creating the illusion of eye contact

Quick Tip4

Make it a habit not to criticise, condemn or complain about others